Marriage and Family Therapy
For the past 29 years, unhappily married people thinking about divorce, those already involved in the divorce process, and people who need divorce related emotional rehabilitation to develop a new roadmap, strengthen and develop effective skills to move on, have been integral components in my main practice of Marriage and Family Therapy.
It is not possible to be in a relationship without periods of disappointment, distress, disconnection. Whether you are in a new relationship and dismayed by unanticipated stumbling blocks, or in a long term marriage with layers of pain and resentment long ignored, or you are in a marriage currently being shattered by the intrusion of an affair, financial devastation, or issues with children or parents, I will help you recover and emerge a stronger team.
The latest statistics reveal that two alpha people create the strongest team. Do you know what you need to know about each other? Do you have the tools to create harmony? What issues do you predict will emerge? I will teach you communication patterns to use under duress to prevent strife and dissonance. I will help you evaluate potential areas of discord, and teach you how they can be prevented.
Remediation of a marriage is deeply gratifying to me. I have been married for 46 years, and have been practicing for 29 years. I am no stranger to the wide variety of pitfalls that can unsettle a marriage at its core. The thrust of my marital practice is SOLUTION ORIENTED. If your marriage is suffering from a troubling issue, let's examine it and create a solution, while learning new skills to handle the next inevitable issue. If your marriage is suffering from CRITICISM, CONTEMPT, STONEWALLING, DEMEANING, OR CONDEMNING BEHAVIORS these must be understood and stopped. Respect is missing. These behaviors are the precursors of marital devastation. I can and will help you end these destructive patterns, and regain and restore comfort, balance, harmony. Many responsible divorce lawyers refer their clients to me for evaluation, last ditch effort treatment and remediation.
Marriage Repair is for those couples on the brink of separating or who have already separated with some ambivalence who want to give marriage one last try. It is a 3 week immersion course that results in the development of a clear directionality. If you choose to remain married, it will break down your stalemates, allow you to learn new communication methods, and begin to allow warmth to enter your relationship. If you choose to part, you will be assured that your choice to divorce is correct.
Should you conclude that your marriage is irretrievably over, I will support and guide you through the uncharted waters of seeking appropriate legal assistance, salvaging your spirit, helping you heal, and moving on. Couples with children are irrevocably joined in partnership through their children. You are still a family, just living in different places.
I frequently treat men and women ALREADY in the process of divorce, referred by their divorce lawyers, friends, doctors. Some men and women become patients when they are in the most devastated and anxious condition, uncertain how to get through the day, frightened, shattered, angry, betrayed. We have no rehearsal for these moments. I will comfort and guide you through this time. The support and guidance I will provide will help you regain equilibrium, restore hope and heal. You will emerge strengthened and motivated toward your new goals,
It would be my pleasure to meet with you, and to provide my adjunctive services to you.